Being USEFUL or Being USED-FULL?!!

                              It was one such exhausted weekend and I planned to do my monthly shopping.  This time my shopping list included  Perfume as the 6 month old Victoria's secret bottle got shifted from my closet to the empty perfume bottle collection box. I decided to shop the perfume at the last as I was completely aware  of how long I would take to buy one.

                             When I entered the perfume section in the supermarket I was greeted by a salesperson with a freindly face. When he asked for my preferences I replied that I'm looking for a different brand, especially the one that would last longer both in terms of quantity and fragrance. I knew I sounded funny yet I was convinced that I had made my requirement clear. With his help I sorted out  few perfumes and finnally picked the one I felt appealing. It is when the cute bottle moved to the billing counter my salesman stopped me saying the cap of my perfume bottle doesn't fit. To me it sounded ridiculous so I retroted that I don't mind and I'm happy with the product. But he was adament not to let me go and was determined to get me the right cap. Though I got a bit annoyed I decided to wait. After an hour of wait the man came out with a beaming face clutching the perfume bottle sealed with a tight cap. Having paid the bill, I thanked the man for testing my patience and sarcastically hinted that he over played his role trying to satisfy the costomer's need. The salesperson in a compassionate tone gave me a slapping reply. He said,

"Ma'am, I did my job. You asked me for a perfume that lasts long in fragrance and quantity. Be it Any perfume if it's not sealed right it would turnout to be useless. The trick is not in the brand ma'am, but in sealing it right".

                              This anecdote may seem pointless to you, but to me this incident was an eye opener. In the current era where each of us are busy chasing our dreams and meeting commitments. There's one thing that we all can't deny, Relationships. Yes! we all get tangled in relationships. In any relationship  problem arises not because of misunderstanding, just because of lack of respect. Respect should be the first thing to be given in a relationship. It is the bridge that gaps the indifferences in each individual. Let's respect people not because of who they are, but because we are someone who respects other's feelings. The same way let's not forget that Respect is a two way street. There is no way we can disrespect someone. But we can  always refuse to be disrespected.   It's worth being everything to someone than being something to everyone.

                         Never let anyone feel comfortable disrespecting you. Allowing someone to use you just because you love them is utter foolishness. The Truth is, your respect in such relationships will last until you remain useful to them. A relationship can never be defined in terms of how much you've sacrificed for a person. A healthy relationship is not about you being USEFUL, it's all about you not being USED-FULL. Every relationship will have its own drama and baggage. We aren't the Big creator to fix someone, all we can do is just hold their hands while they are fixing themselves, If we're given due respect. The only way to stop someone treating you like a puppet is to cut the strings. Always keep in mind that each one of us have a price tag called SELF-RESPECT.

                         In this weird world you need not be impressed by money, job or status. Instead be impressed by the way one human treats the another . And if you can't find the right person try being the right person. The valuable lesson taught by the salesman has been the alarm that made me realize I was living in a bubble. From now on make sure, if your relationship is carefully sealed with Respect?

 If yes enjoy being USEFUL, 

 If not just evaporate without getting USED-FUL L.